Two miscarriages in a row and advanced age, very discouraged

I’m sorry to hear of your experiences. The best person to ask these questions to is your current acupuncturist who is most familiar with your case overall. But I will give some general opinions which may be helpful.

If it is encouraging at all, I do a fair amount of fertility cases and I’ve successfully treated many women with “recurrent” miscarriages. One woman had 6 miscarriages (in a row) and everything worked out well after a few months of treatment.

For most fertility patients getting pregnant is half the battle - at least you know it is possible which can be a better position than many are in (regardless of age). And you seem to get pregnant fairly quickly which is also a good sign.

Recurrent miscarriage is a fairly well explored phenomena in Chinese Medicine and there are herbal and acupuncture treatments that can be used if it looks like someone is going to miscarry. These treatments can be tough, however, as many times there are no or minimal signs and even if they are there your acupuncturist has to be able to get you in very quickly as there is a very small window for those types of treatments to be effective. But there are treatments, besides the fostering and ultimately preventative work that your practitioner is already doing.

When you say “resort to western medicine” - I’m not entirely sure what you mean. For the most part western medicine has options for increasing the odds of pregnancy but not very much that can avoid miscarriages. Certainly genetic testing of fetal tissue is possible to rule out any genetic issues that may be contributing. Most physicians, however, will not run those tests until you have had 3 or more miscarriages (technically “recurrent” at that point). Other western bloodwork may be helpful (hormone panels, etc.) for you to have in case you do other options in the future, but very likely useful as well for your acupuncturist to possibly better direct the treatments.

Miscarriage is somewhat common, rates vary depending on time frames but around 20% is applicable here. Two in a row is somewhat less common, but there are a host of factors (besides age) that can be contributing. Your first early miscarriage counts, of course, but things can happen early that just make the fetus not viable - and many of these have nothing to do with anything except nature so to speak. It is still a miscarriage technically, but a bit different in clinical meaning than your second. My only point here, is that this doesn’t yet exactly show a trend, even though it would be easy to see that as the person experiencing it.

I would recommend you get some relevant bloodwork from your western doctor and keep seeing your acupuncturist (assuming they have a good amount of experience with fertility) and just see how things turn out. It can very frustrating, but in my clinical experience with proper treatment there is a 90% or higher chance that things will work out well.

That history is useful (why your practitioner is really the person to ask). Having had healthy children previously pretty much rules out many of the genetic factors. Knowing the clomid was helpful for you previously is also useful information. Do you by chance know what formulas your current practitioner has you on? If not, that is fine. Also, how long did you try previously before using clomid? Regardless, my guess from your history and how quickly you are getting pregnant now, is that in a few months or less all should be fine.

I have to admit I won't treat a 42 year old with this problem. This is a personal choice but you already have children. When your child will is 18 you will be 60. many of my Patients have health problems at 60. The world is so very over-populated, if you want another child you can adopt.
I have helped about 15 couples to have children but they were younger and didn't have any so I would say think long and hard and count how lucky you are already. I am not meaning to be harsh or rude and I say this with the upmost respect. best wishes.

Thank you Alicija,

I understand what you are saying, life can be hard but sometimes it helps to look at things from a different perspective. I realize it is not 'politically correct'. but I have had Patients in your exact situation and my advice is the same. We cannot always have everything we want in life and I can see that you are going through a lot of heart ache. It often happens that if you forget about having children a weight will be lifted, you will be less stressed and you get pregnant anyway. As you know the 'western' way can be very stressful, some of my Patients have gotten Pregnant when they stop the western treatment and Acupuncture then have relaxed. I am sorry that this website doesn't believe in free speech as my comment and your reply appear to have been removed. Anyway whatever happens, I wish you the very best x

Thank you – the bottles had just those labels so I asked her and she said it was a formula she prepared of more than one herb, though I’m unsure what formula(s) it was. It’s granuals I make to a tea three times a day.

At weekly acupuncture she asks questions and checks pulse and tongue. Here’s a tongue pic if that helps. Do you have any additional advice that would be helpful? I’d converse with her more but her English isn’t the best.

The herbs (fu ling and bai shao) she had you on were a simple two herb combination which some practitioners do - others use more complicated herbal formulas. There is no right or wrong there, only what is appropriate for the person.

As for formulas to avoid impending miscarriage, there are some of course and they can be quite helpful under the right circumstances with the right timing. Your practitioner knowing more about your history at this point and being more cautious the next time you are pregnant may likely choose to keep you on something during those first 6 weeks or so.

Certainly genetic testing of fetal tissue is possible to rule out any genetic issues that may be contributing

If you mean that the quality of the man’s reproductive cells might be an issue here, then I would imagine that this is a direction to look in.